Ashley Callingbull - Photo by Jade Ehlers

This was originally titled - " The Problem With (Traditional) Relationships." So....a quick article before I get headlong into the PhD writing for today.

I'd like to mix two things today amidst the moralist overtones of the messaging I received this morning on Facebook.

Not only are marriages vastly unsuccessful those that are still in some form are according to Justin Gammill:

"...An overwhelming number of people these days say that they are unhappy in their marriages and relationships. An overwhelming number of people these days say that they are unhappy in their marriages and relationships." now for the funny part. Did you notice the repeat above :)

Here is the article in situ.

OMG I had to laugh because it goes to show that no what perspective it's written about, even those lauding change are getting wrong :)

For the record, the image below is a screenshot.

Not withstanding, in reality, I also meet couples whose marriages are in some way fulfilling as company but have little or no passion or curiosity left as they careen from one shopping mall to another.

It begs the questions:

Why are we getting married when the statistics and the societal moral norms that once told us that this was the right "way" are failing? Why do we continue to keep lining up and praying to the same gods who never show their faces when their clergy themselves cant even address the above?

For many though, the mere idea that they might need to travel alone for a while or that they might need to find new ways beyond how they were raised is too much to consider, so the learned patterns and the apathy continue while they criticise those around themselves for being different.

It is as Mrs (note) Universe, Ashley Callingbull has said recently, yes, whilst the bastions and programs that would perpetuate aesthetic enslavement try to predominate, there is change afoot and those with the platform are using it for power to help others less fortunate than themselves.

"...Really? People think I'm too political for my first day as Mrs Universe. Did you really think I was going to just sit there and look pretty? Definitely not. I have a title, a platform and a voice to make change and bring awareness to First Nations issues here in Canada. I'm getting all this media attention and I'm going to use it to the best of my ability. I'm not your typical beauty queen. Look out... I have a voice for change and I'm going to use it!"

In a way that is what I consider I have discovered myself too.

I do not do marriages, shopping malls and moralist secrecy. I'd rather living in the open and in doing so perhaps I might even help one person in their journey to love a life worth living. Online dating is just shopping for people who look good but when you take them to bed you realise that you had chosen cherry whipped fudge cake instead of banana whirl n' candy poppin whizz fizz.

Did we think that one way was the right way? Did we also think that Mrs Universe was just there to look good?

Stop online dating and actually smile at everyone. they will soon ask you what is wrong and you can pick the ones that are right for you. They are smiling from inside too.

As is the case with Ashley, I say no to sexual and physical abuse and I say that to go the distance we need to speak out, with our own voice and to join those who know their voice effect change and to live that truth beyond what others sadly say is the only walk to walk.

It's all about relatedness - relationships are so 1660. We do not need to be locked in to a capitalist ownership certification officiated by a religious institution.

Be single, together.

Keep exploring and tackle your jealousy's because as sure as heck, it will become apparent to you  that jealousy is just a societal construct - your partner is the person who continues to keep returning.

Your soulmate is yourself - as soon as you find that soulmate in yourself other soulmates will want company.

Whilst you are it... in case you are interested to know -