Victim Impact Statement

Photogrpaher: Magali McDuffie

This Victim Impact Statement has been prepared and written in full by myself, Alexander Hayes.

In identifying as the Victim and as the Complainant in a historical sexual assault case, I hereby describe the physical effects and emotional harm that these matters had at the time of the offences and continue to have upon me to the present day.

I understand that the Victim Impact Statement (VIS) is an opportunity for me to participate in the criminal justice process by informing the Court and anyone reading this document of the impact of sexual assault on myself, Alexander Hayes. I do not regard anything I have written as being offensive, threatening, intimidating or harassing towards the offender.

I reinforce that this Victim Impact Statement is about the personal harm that I have suffered as a result of the offenders wilful behaviour that has compromised my physical and psychological well being, both of which are commensurate and not isolated in description.

Alexander Hayes - Age 11 years


As a child, one of my greatest joys was attending social events organised by the Church with my Family. I attended Church services and participated in activities which supported the financial and logistical structure of these organisations, which were always described to me as an opportunity to make friends and learn new life skills.

I was enthusiastic about the prospects I had ahead of me when we moved from inner suburban Bexley to the Sutherland Shire of Sydney, New South Wales, Australia. I was a well adjusted, articulate and happy child when I first joined the Church of England Boys Society (CEBS) in early 1979 at St. John The Baptist Anglican Church in Sutherland, NSW Australia.

Honesty, trust and obedience were reinforced as virtues of this Church activity and yet these values, rules of social engagement and Law were broken by the offender  in incidents as detailed to the Court.

The wilful behaviour of the offender compromised my physical and psychological well being, with the effects being nothing less than a catastrophic betrayal of my childhood and adult humanity.

Impact On Family

The core of an individual’s identity across all cultures is considered to be informed from infancy by our immediate kin Family, who always remain central to our reference in life, yet, in my case, the very first impact I felt as a boy just entering his teenager years was alienation from my Family due to sexual assault.

As detailed in Court, the wilful behaviour of the offender immediately compromised my own sense of trust in adult males and as I experienced the fullest extent of hypocrisy and predation, in turn, it caused me to question why my innocence was not protected by those also charged with my care.

The impact of sexual assault on myself has caused shame on my Family as well as a continuing and direct impact on the relationships I have with my immediate Family. I do not know how at the point of writing this Victim Impact Statement how, if ever, I am going to be able to counteract those effects of sexual assault and heal those relationships.

Impact on Relationships

Sexual assault has had a direct and life long impact on the way in which I have been able to express my intimacy with others.

As a boy, my ‘kid code’ was scrambled for want of a better expression.

The wilful behaviour of the offender compromised my capacity to form intimate relationships with others as a teenager and I directly attribute sexual assault as the psychological barrier I have experienced at times in my relationships since with significant others.

As a result of sexual assault, my trust in others, in particular those who travelled through my life journey in long term relationships were compromised by my psychological distress. I also consider that I was denied those moments of innocence as a child exploring and forging those first moments of an autonomous identity and by being sexually assaulted, that impeccable child state ended in an unwelcome catharsis.  

The impact of sexual assault on my relationships has been ruinous, contributing directly to my separations, marriage breakdowns and deep sadness across my Family as a result.  In all, except one case, my partner was unaware of those specific matters and detail which have now been heard in a Court of Law.

Alexander Hayes - Age 15 years

Impact on Friendships

Many of my peers as a teenager noted that I would at times be ‘distant’ in conversation and at times less than convivial in my expressions towards older males who I often attributed wrongly to be of a physical threat to my well being.

My misperceptions of trust were forged in the compromise I found myself in ‘holding a secret’ which I knew would result in ‘grave consequences’ if revealed, for myself and those who I loved most. The wilful behaviour of the offender in sexually assaulting me has without any doubt been a contributing factor in the impact on my friendships with others, particularly older males as described prior.

In the company of others I have continued to experience feelings of anxiety and fear of ‘enclosure’ which has led to my self exclusion from many social events as an adult. The very same changes in my social life have had an impact on others who have been unable to understand my ‘sharp’ demeanour or unexplained hostility.

Holding a ‘secret’ in an everyday mindful state and not being able to speak of what had happened to me for fear of reprisal in its many manifestations is the backbone for the trauma and the behaviours that I have described above. Sexual assault has also caused many ‘unseen’ issues which only those closest to me can attest.

Recurrent ‘flashbacks’ of events and associated physical effects have affected the way in which I interact with friends as medical professionals describe as similar to ‘post traumatic stress disorder’. My experience is that my friendships do not often endure the mayhem that sexual assault causes in breach of trust.

In bringing my story forward, the ability to trust in others is central to what sexual assault has in the past taken away from me.

Impact On Health

The impact of sexual assault on my health is discernible in the many presentations to medical professionals over thirty years in states of anxiety and depression. The state of hypervigilance and the sense of deprivation of liberty that I experienced for so long since that period of sexual assault, I attribute directly to sexual assault.

As a child and as a sexual assault victim I recall suffering episodes of night ‘terror’, uncontrolled sweating, bed urination and ‘sleep walking’ in an uncontrolled state. As a teenager I turned to alcohol and drugs as a means to control my anxiousness and to embolden myself to counteract the fear I felt in a social setting, all of which I believe can be attributed to sustained sexual assault as the primary causal agency. As an adult I continue to suffer from severe insomnia, night ‘terror’ and hypervigilance which all  impact on my ability to share the same bed as my partner.

My physical health and emotional well being as an adult have been compromised as a result of the behaviours that became manifest contrary to my innocent disposition prior to sexual assault. Likewise, my attitude towards others and the way I now process conflict has been at times only satisfactory, at times self destructive.

There are not enough pages in this statement to provide the details of all those who have from across the medical profession helped me by listening carefully. My coping skills are due to the goodwill of those medical professionals, community members and friends from around the world who have helped me over three decades to develop ways to counteract the catastrophe of sexual assault and make healthy life choices.

Impact on Career

Since a young age my capacity and capability in social and academic performance, attention to detail and my ability to engage with complex academic challenges have been overshadowed by negative memories of sexual assault.

In fear of returning to CEBS activities and not feeling safe within my family home I recall as a teenager truanting from school, disengaging from the curriculum at times and yet despite this fact a number of my teachers in secondary school, as well as other significant mentors, encouraged me to pursue knowledge to the utmost of my ability. As a result, I have excelled academically and have held senior roles and positions of employment, not surprisingly in the early part of my career in restorative justice and child protection.

Throughout my career as an educator, my prospects of attaining financial security as a result of the impact of sexual assault have been duly direful. My economic position as a result of the effect of sexual assault as described prior in ‘impact on relationships’ has been calamitous and I am struggling now to ‘make ends meet’ which is distressing given my advanced age and lack of financial assets.

In coming forward to speak my story publicly I have been ostracised and removed from communications with a number of professional colleagues who despite their misinformation and lack of collegial empathy claimed my seeking justice in a criminal court as ‘professional suicide’. In coming forward and providing evidence in court, in speaking my story,  it is evident to me that sexual assault has had and will continue to have a direct and undeniable impact on my career professional and prospects of promotion.

I attribute the sexual assault that I have suffered as directly compromising the fullest potential and future prospects that I may have attained had I not been a victim of crime.

Impact As Victim Of Crime

I am a good person.

Most days I wake up hopeful and thankful that I have lived a good life despite the fact that the majority of what I have lived has been affected by a crime of sexual assault. The impact of sexual assault has been horrendous on my life and at times has caused me deep pain, feelings of isolation, fear of loss and great anguish.

Sexual assault breaks the rules of society. It is against the Law, against the ethical foundation for humanity and those who break this moral code then own the consequences.

I remind myself and all those who may think otherwise, that as a victim of crime, as a sexual assault victim that the fact remains that I will never ‘get over it’ rather, as a survivor I have learned to live with it.

I am a Survivor.

Alexander Hayes

18th April, 2019

Antisocial Media

This was a post that I sent into the teachAndLearnOnline Group (TALO) that seems to have sealed my fate with the educational tech geek fest which I’ve consistently fragmented with actual HUMAN discussions.

TeachandLearnOnline group

1st April 2019

Thanks Vance & Kim,

I am prepared to be outraged...and to be the one that deletes it. 

Along with Instagram, Snapchat and every other god damn anti-social-doesn't-serve-any-professional-purpose-whatsoever application that eats my time and records every word I say for its own purpose.

41 Aboriginal children between the ages of 11 and 16 have suicided in Western Australia alone in the last 16 weeks. Even the Police have managed to sign up MOU's to assist human rights and social justice groups to support the families and funerals of those affected.

Do you think Facebook, Snapchat or Instagram helped at all even under subpoena to assist in any inquiry whatsoever with those families. 

Zero. None. Nada.

They know of the whereabouts every god damned second of where those kids were, what they we saying, who they were with, what they we eating, where they were sleeping, what drugs they were taking. Every second of everyday that KNEW where these kids were at. They also know where you are at, what secrets you dont even know yourself and others around you that would shock the hell out of you too.

This isn't about '...oh look at how useful this is for me in my professional life' or '...oh this doesn't affect me because I am in control of my own destiny and it's up to each and every user abuser to make their own decisions'. This isn't about '....oh look, technology is neutral and its like a pencil' nor is this about ' doesn't affect me or my family and because I am wearing the corporate badges they gave me to signify that I'm a professional in social networking, social media, social social'. 

This isn't about being a 'techno-tragic' nor 'techno-skeptic nor is it an interrogation of anyone's past successes or failings as humans being used by a system.

I'm calling it anti-social media and the sooner we all start building something different to this electronic data harvesting machine the better. Let's name these 'f&^%$#s and say 'Snapchat you suck with your devoid of ethics memory corrosion machine' and ' suck with your insidious negative, hate spreading algorithm pretending to be our more police'.

Naming and shaming a 'system' is about as effective as saying 'this is all the governments fault'.

We need to be outraged with what we know and be prepared to speak it. It's not polite nor is it civil when the very purveyors of supposed connection hold the memory, the whereabouts, the photo albums, the funeral notices and the control of billions tapping it, selling it controlling everything through it.

A Bit About Me

Photo: Alexander Hayes

Photo: Alexander Hayes

A response to the following questions for those following my journey now here in the Kimberley region of Western Australia. Here is a link to that #realstory I spoke about in this interview -

Interview with Dianna Marr on 13th November 2018

Q1. I suppose this could be an introductory question and that you could shuffle it so that it is can you tell us a little bit about yourself, background, what you are passionate about and let us know who you are?

Q2. Can you tell us what you are up to up there and what sort of things you do?

Q3. As far as drug law reform goes can you articulate your views,  how we met and can you please tell us how our philosophy is in common?

Q4. It strikes me Alexander that you have got a really organised network and a really strong team of people and I believe we are getting ourselves organised along those lines so how can we help you and how can you help us?

Q5. I sent you through that invite for the Greens to what they call the peoples dinner about corporations buying their way into our democracy, now a lot of us are members of different parties and that doesnt matter because you keep your friends close and your enemies even closer can you attend this event...can you make it on the are back in Perth?

Q6. Finally, is there anything there anything else to add or you would like to say?

Download the M4A file - 5.2 MB

Download the MP3 file - 14.3 MB


Tonight we had the privilege of sitting on the pidan dunes amongst all the cockle shells listening to Bart Pigram, Uncle Peter Peter's and another Elder tell stories of their time as children on Kennedy Hill, Broome, Western Australia. We listened to another old welcome to country audio stories and then they told us stories about Boogarragarra, the lady in the red dress, the devil dog story, about fishing for stingrays, old men fishtraps down south and also north of Broome.

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A Gift

I received a package in the mail today.  As I knew already it would contain nothing more than an organisations coverup of the truth of the matter pertaining to my resignation. 

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Streamfolio Pty Ltd

After multiple attempts to convince fellow Directors at Streamfolio Pty Ltd to change focus on the development of a data management repository using an ELGG open source platform including meeting via Google Hangouts to see recent developments (Alexander Hayes 2014) for body worn cameras the researcher resigned as Director.

Whilst the core concept of a private and secure service for educators using wearable technologies appeared sound, the practical management and development of the online facilities proved unreliable, especially for those in rural and remote regions of Australia.

Learning Architects

The ability to engage learners with real purpose is now more plausible than ever before.

The privilege of exploring how so was afforded me by Don Perrin at the TALO Swap / Meet 2005 held in the Blue Mountains, NSW, Australia. We engaged in dialogue which gave me his opinion on that which he considers to be a more important concept than teaching ability itself – coined as the influence of the ‘learning architect’.

Don stated ( I understood Don to say ) that the critical inquisition of the structures within which contemporary communication technologies enable global learning is of greater benefit to a learning community than enthusiastically embracing the freedom of communication it purports to enable. The very idea that communication technology is a virtual networked idea only and that true communication form only follows the functional application of the technology is very compelling and refreshing take on ICT.

I have often reflected on the power of the virtual P-2-P socio-pedia (SMS) and the onset of the educationalist avatar (mobcast) however taking Don’s ideas on board had given me new hope. What Don proposes as a differing descriptor for educator’s points to the infancy of mobile communication as globally enabled learning device. I feel I now have a lifetime left to realize my dreams of making learning projects a globally connected virtual expectation as opposed to a random, hope driven static foray into corporate consumer enterprise.

The majority of the conversation with Don then progressed to include how distinct boundaries need demolishing every time a new communication technology is enabled, with ninety percent of the effort in engaging each other lost to pointless codified technology translation – geek speak. I asked more questions and received more pictures – learning experiences enabled live-time by learning architects as opposed to learning facilitators milling masses to the beat of technology.

As an architect seeks to realize a clients dream and then shape space to fit time, the same applies to educators, teachers and control enthusiasts who negotiate the uptake for learning with their respective cohorts. Change results in conceptual retakes. Eventually with teams of trades’ specialists ready to flesh out the building, the learning architect unfurls the plans which enable each element of the jigsaw to fuse seamlessly. 

Facilitation became a mere fallacy. 

Clarification as to how to better understand these ideas within what I do as an educator, a connectivist virgin and as an inter-dependent critical thinker remains

central to my association with TALO. I’m not about to change my calling card. I’m simply seeking solutions. 

The nature of my interest and association with this group of like-minded individuals primarily focus on how to fuse constructivist with connectivist, in a time of post-post-modernist. The role of relational aesthetics in education has also been raised a notch by my foray into the TALO web group. I’m now trawling back through bookmarks from years of debt propelled tertiary institutional knowledge rehash and making them available for others to arm themselves with knowledge free of the tertiary HECS debt.

With the proliferation of open source and readily accessible technologies ripe for the picking I have always sought ways to connect my learners to experiential learning, finding enabling and connected ways to describe, track or access each learner’s journey as opposed to claiming leadership of the learning journey.

On several occasions this year I have conferred with Leigh Blackall, TALO founder and Swap /Meet 2005 organizer who has challenged me and other seasoned educators to take up elements of networked inter-operables like wikis and blogs pitting passion against hierarchy, seeking to further demystifying the learners journey. Pointing at what does and does not work for his learners has revealed for me that Leigh’s approach to unraveling learning code is firmly parallel to my own principles for ingesting the change known as Web 2.0.

I don’t always agree but I endeavor to make that known.

Taking things off line where possible and enabling mobile learning has by far formed the learning architecture which I now continue to seek to employ. The gadgetry is no more than a mobile computer. Anne Paterson, colleague and friend keeps reminding me of that point. With a brood of teenagers avidly inter- connected via synchronous chat we both try to understand better the way that makes it all tick. Online – offline – sideline.

Blog your thoughts and aggregate these to affect change within organizational structure? Transmit social metadata live to the web as it occurs and preface this with interconnected links to other projects happening simultaneously? 

TALO2006 promises nothing to me unless I can get my head around audio mark making, wiki-versity, connectivist vs. constructivist and any number of things that Steven, Stephan, Maria, Anne, Kylie, Don and the others swamped my head with. 

I’m challenged.

Seems silly that the rest of the world will have to wait till we surface in Hong Kong complete with others to form an international consortium. Till then check

our asynchronous web spaces or ping our mobile devices to interact with you. 

Learning Architects – seems fitting and appropriate. 

It was either this or go all out and get to the Mobilearn Conference 2005 in Johannesburg.

I’m glad I attended TALO2005. 

 I’d better go and check how Marcus Ragus is holding up on his mobile safari at 

Alex Hayes 
 October 2006